ROCK YOUR LIFE | Week 9

Success. Defined. By YOU.

From coaching many people with all kinds of backgrounds and goals I have learned that the word SUCCESS can mean something totally unique to each person. What we all share in common is the fact that we seek success.....more specifically....we seek fulfillment and joy in our lives. I mean, you are here working with me because you are driven to create a positive and rewarding life experience right? In fact, it means so much to you that you are willing to invest time, money, physical and emotional energy on connecting with and developing the best version of you.

If I am off my rocker please let me know and we can have a chat BUT I'm pretty sure we are on the same page when it comes to your goal of living a great, fulfilling and authentically expressive life.  AKA. Rocking Your Life!

I see success not as a goal to be obtained but rather a process to be learned. Truly success is a MINDSET that fuels ACTION. The results of this process are the rewards, failures and lessons acquired along the way. 

SUCCESS IS IN TRYING---> LEARNING---> TRYING ---> LEARNING. 

Are you going to fail? YES.

Will there be days when you wonder why you are trying? YES.
Will you achieve success that makes your spirit smile? YES.
Will all your effort be worth it? ABSOLUTELY. 

Here is an even more focused description on what I call SOUL-CENTRED SUCCESS:

The key in that statement is the fact that success is the experience of alignment between 1) who you are, 2) what you want and 3) how you live your everyday life. When you are unclear, not accepting of or not in alignment with any one of those three things LIFE gets out of control. Life feels chaotic. The term unbalanced gets thrown around like a hot potato. I believe it is the lack of alignment between the three that causes our greatest frustrations, robs us of our moments of joy and hides opportunities for fulfilment. 

What do you think? 

Over the last two months you have been spending a good amount of time taking inventory of who you are and what you want. From your Accountables to JUICE DAYS to your Statements of Determination everything up to this point has been strategically designed to help you define your FOUNDATION. 

Your FOUNDATION is the trunk of this tree. Deeply rooted. Rich in wisdom and experience. The source of nourishment for every branch that bravely stretches towards the sun. The source of renewal for every leaf that buds and blooms. 

In week nine we are going to take time to reflect on how you are receiving.

Interestingly, the tree above could never have been so strong, rooted and expansive without first RECEIVING the gifts of the earth. Could you imagine if it said to the rain, "I can grow without you." or to the sun, "I don't need your rays to be me." In nature living things are so damn gracious at receiving. Kids are too. They accept love. They require support. They THRIVE from the teachings of others. 

In our busy lives we are so focused on doing and serving that RECEIVING has become a lost art. I didn’t even think about receiving into one day a fortune cookie asked me, “How are you receiving?” I almost wanted to cry. It hit a nerve. One I didn’t even know existed! I felt the weight of all my expectations fall heavy on my shoulders. I was so focused on being of service (to my family, friends and clients) that I forgot to include me on that list. I hope this weeks lesson on RECEIVING is as powerful for you as it was for me. 

We cannot give what we do not have. Let’s fill up that cup of yours. 

TWO BIG QUESTIONS TO THINK ABOUT:
1. Are you open receiving what your life experience has to offer?
2. Are you more comfortable giving than receiving?

According to Amanda Lowen for many people, the answer to question #2 is no. While you may have never thought about receiving as healthy and positive, the consequences of not receiving include the following:

- Emotionally, you feel unappreciated.
- Physically, you feel exhausted.
- Mentally, you feel resentful.
- Spiritually, you feel depleted.

CAN YOU RELATE?

It’s like you have a gate that only swings one way, and all that you give doesn’t bring anything back to you because the gate doesn’t open toward you, only away from you.

When you receive what people and the world have to give, you not only feel better, you open up pathways you couldn’t see before, stimulate your imagination in ways that could not happen before, and have energy that was not previously available to you.

Transform your life today by balancing all that you give with receiving. Here’s some tips on how:

1. Accept all compliments. 

Aren’t you fortunate that people will do something for you or say something nice to you? Be excited by it! Celebrate it! Your willingness to accept something as simple as a compliment is significant. It broadcasts loud and clear that you are ready to receive.

If you push away what people try to give to you, you send a strong message that you do not want to be given to. And, over time, people cooperate by being less giving.

Here are three ways to show the world that you're ready to receive:
- Be open to what people offer you, including compliments, offers of help & gifts.
- Accept them graciously and with gratitude.
- Once you welcome and appreciate the little things, you'll easily graduate to the bigger ones.

2. Be spiritually naked.

To be spiritually naked is to be self-revealing. It means that you don’t just trot out the good, healed and healthy parts of your personality when you're with people. It means that you express your vulnerable, clueless, and lonely parts, too. You include them in your conversations with others and acknowledge them to yourself.

It is a sign of strength to be authentic. It takes courage to embrace and receive all parts of yourself and to share them with others. The good news is that once you are comfortable with being genuine, you seek out others who are as well. It is relaxing to be in the presence of an imperfect human being.

Here are three ways to invite people to get to know you:
- Be self-revealing. Don’t showcase only the healed or together parts of your personality.
- Look for opportunities to let people know what is going on with you.
- Be authentic, be transparent, be real.

3. Count your blessings.

To be grateful is to be receptive to people’s generosity and to life’s abundance. When you acknowledge and appreciate the kindness that people extend to you, these experiences fill you up and become a power in your life.

It’s like you've plugged into your life instead of barreling through it.

Everywhere you go there are people who make your days easier and more enjoyable. Write about it in a journal, tell people you appreciate them, spend time thinking about how lucky you are.

Here are three ways to activate an attitude of gratitude:
- Every day, look for reasons to be grateful.
- Be genuinely appreciative.
- Say thank you in person, in a thank you card, note, letter, email, or text.

Let people celebrate you, get to know you, and look for opportunities to thank them. Not only will you feel healthier in mind, body, and spirit, you will bring more balance into your life, create greater reciprocity in your relationships, and give yourself the energy you need to achieve your goals and fulfill your dreams.

WEEK 9 LoveWork

PRACTICING RECEIVING

Your branches of opportunities, relationships, adventures, successes and fulfillment will only grow to the extent that you are OPEN TO RECEIVING. So let's get practicing. In this week's LoveWork you are going to examine how you are GIVING and RECEIVING in your life (you may be surprised by what you find!). Using Amanda's tips above you will also take action to practice receiving. Let the expansion begin.

NEXT STEPS

Using the tips above choose an action step for each tip that will help you make space to receive.  

Tip #1 ACCEPT ALL COMPLIMENTS. 
How will you make space for this tip in your life?
In what ways do you push away what people are trying to give you?
 
Tip #2 BE SPIRITUALLY NAKED
How will you make space for this tip in your life?
In what ways do you not reveal your full authentic self? WHY?
How would being comfortable with your vulnerability serve your life experience? 

Tip #3 COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS: 
How will you make space for this tip in your life?
In what ways do you let people celebrate and get to know you?
In what ways do you CELEBRATE yourself?
In what ways do you sabotage a mindset of gratitude?

As always, THANK YOU for sharing. It is active self-discovery that will connect you with your unlimited potential.

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Get ready to expand in some really amazing ways.

Speaker | Trainer | Passion Igniter
trisha@passionigniter.ca
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