ROCK YOUR LIFE | Week 12

Wanting madly. Being deeply.

SO??? How was your week just-to-be? Did you relax and enjoy the unintentional intention? I hope so :)

Every Monday I wake up and mentally say to myself, "What will this week bring?". Crazy shit can happen between this Monday and the next Monday. Good things. Frustrating things. Amazing, miraculous beautiful things. And even things that, in the moment, seem like nothing at all but add up to the greatest memories of my life.

What will this week bring for you?

The best part about every Monday is that it is impossible to predict what will be. Sure we can do things that alter and guide our future but in the end we have no control over the final result.

I'm finding that many of the beautiful souls who come to me for help to move forward (or grow forward as I call it) are victims of the expectation that if they just work harder and sacrifice more they will manifest what they say they want.

IT'S A LIE.

If the above were true many more people would be living their dreams! Instead we get stuck in between those lines of inspiration. We fall into the gaps of dream, wish and do. Not because we can't. Not because we are incapable of WANTING so bad for something to happen in our lives that it hurts our soul to live a day without it a reality. Dreaming, wishing and taking action are absolutely critical (of course!) but not the most important pieces of living a truly good life.

I think the freedom gained from knowing you do not control your destiny provides more joy and fulfillment than realizing your greatest dreams.

Think about it. If you wake up everyday knowing that you can live your life fully in the here and now.....in the moments of TODAY....think about the FREEDOM in that mindset?

FREEDOM!

This mindset involves embracing what is, releasing what was and being open to whatever will be. Make choices TODAY that feel right for you TODAY. Have fun today because today is the only time that you can actually experience the lightness of light and love. The magic of a good life is in the actions of today, not in the results of tomorrow. WHY? Because you do not control the results!

YOU DO NOT CONTROL WHAT WILL BE.

"But Trisha why are you saying such things? Don't you teach that you can achieve your dreams and goals? Don't you motivate people to take action and create their best life?"

Why yes my friend. That is what I say. But the strategies of manifestation run second to my teachings on soul centred living. And it is because I have seen the damaging effects of our cultures phenomenon I call the Manifestation Gap that I teach Soul Centred Success as the foundations to a happy life.

I know too many unhappy people who successfully dream big, wish hard, truly believe and take consistent action. Believe me that those are NOT the only steps to all kinds of happy.

The Manifestation Gap is a place that provides hollow fulfillment because there is always more to be done, more to be created, goals to be achieved, expectations to be realized, feelings to be experienced, momentum to be gained and HAPPY TO BE CREATED.

Happy is not created. It is experienced.

I am an addict of this GAP myself. I have spent a lifetime struggling between the lines of DREAM. WISH and DO. Feeling like I am always so close to the next big step. Sensing that there is a higher calling but always finding myself a hands reach away before it slips into the darkness of possibility just before I can grab it. TO CLAIM IT. TO BE IT.

It's all a smoke screen FARCE. A disturbing and devastating concoction of cultural beliefs and wrongly placed sense of worth.

And through all my struggling I lose focus. I become detached from HERE and NOW. I spend more time thinking about what could be instead of what is. And ironically, as time marches forward, and I achieve goals that consumed me years before.....new goals, new ideas, new levels to be reached lurk around me like vultures waiting to feed on my drive for....more.

I'm a recovering addict. One day at a time.

The Manifestation Gap is exhausting. It is an unrelenting struggle between what you want and what is. And from my own experiences, and those I work with, I believe it is the source of much disappointment and in some cases....deep sadness.

Are you victim of the Manifestation Gap? Answer these questions in your journal:

+ Do you find yourself thinking often about how things would be different today if only.....?

+ Do you spend over 40% of your time during the day planning for the future?

+ Do you spend over 40% if your time during the day thinking about what was?

+ Do you feel like you are lost and not sure who you are supposed to be?

+ Do you ever crave peace from the struggle? (THIS IS A BIG ONE!)

+ Do you desire change but are unsure on what you should do next? I call this "grey space".

+ Do you reach a goal and then quickly find yourself desiring MORE....wanting MORE?

+ Do you push away love, or potential love, from others because you feel disheartened about who you are? And/or where you are?

+ Do you feel like you are always in a struggle to BECOME something different or more?

+ Do you find inspiration from the life of others or feelings of less-than and or jealousy?

+ Do you predominantly want for things that can only be experienced in the future?

+ Do you laugh out loud daily? What makes you laugh like that?

+ Do you have fun daily?

If you are thinking, "Holy crap! I am in a "Manifestation Gap" don't worry. It's common, and once recognized, you can start practicing ways to move out of that life-limiting mindset. I am working on it all the time! Our culture of BUSY has created many manifestation junkies.....leaving a path of soul centred destruction in it's wake. Understanding how you uniquely get stuck in the gap will help you to move out of it and towards living a life that is full of joy, fun and peace in the here and now!

1. Accept and embrace that you do not control your destiny.
You do not have that kind of power. YES...you are making every day choices that guide and steer your life but the end result is a miraculous blend of more than just choices from YOU. Release the pressure. Manifestation is about creating out of love and "what feels right for you right now" and not what must be. Nothing is guaranteed and nothing must be. Have faith in this truth. Open up to the possibilities of the here and now. Your #1 job is to work the shit out of TODAY---squeeze every drop of awesome out of it that you can. And on the crappy days simply eat chocolate, drink wine and go back to bed :)

2. Practice SOUL CENTRED LIVING.
Soul centred success and living is the active expression of your passions and purpose. It is the experience of alignment between who you are, what you want and how you live your everyday life. EVERYDAY LIFE. Not how you lived a year ago. Not how you will live in six months. THE HERE AND NOW. Remember our lesson on expression and expansion? Ya...do more of that.

3. Create fun.
Too many of us spend too much time creating things that, while are important to our success in biz and beyond, are not always FUN. We need fun. Fun connects us with play. With laughter and lightness. So once a week, to get out of your own head, do something that is fun. Whatever that looks like for you!

4. Be with today.
Embrace where you are today. Man that sounds easy doesn't it?!? I hear ya. This one has always been my greatest struggle. The reality is that we only have now. So I personally hand my process over to "my destiny" and everyday, remind myself, that my process is part of something bigger than just me. Does this mean I don't work hard and dream big? NO. I just work very hard on not letting my big dreams and hard work consume my joy in the present. I have to be gentle on myself as I continually evolve with this lesson. You need to be gentle on you and your process too. Please promise me that. xoxo

In our next coaching call let's go over these and talk about how you experience the Manifestation Gap and how you might use these strategies in your own life. #yesyoucan

WEEK 12 LoveWork

This is a very big week in teachings. You will read this and absorb what you need to and what you are ready to embrace. Be aware of your RAW and REFINED resistance. Take the time to ingest the teachings.

NEXT STEPS

This week I would like you to read this email at least once a day. Every morning or late at night....take the time to intentionally be with the words above. How do they make you feel? Do you agree with them? Read, re-read and re-read again....everyday. Print and complete the attached PDF LoveWork as a guide to your journalling.

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Maintain the Momentum.

Speaker | Trainer | Passion Igniter
trisha@passionigniter.ca
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